Chandler Massey (21) recently won a daytime Emmy for his role as Will on "Days Of Our Lives." And no, I don’t know this because I watch the soap nor am I a fan of Massey’s. But I do love to read celebrity “news” (hey, not everything can be about communication in the workplace!).
It seems that Massey was the odds-on favorite in his
category, though he didn’t take the predictions seriously. In fact, he didn’t even bother to write an
acceptance speech. He revealed to
reporters that he hadn’t prepared a speech because he didn’t want to “jinx it.”
He later regretted not writing one
because he forgot to thank various special people, including his grandparents.
I was amused reading this because how often have I refrained
from doing or saying something because I didn’t want to “jinx” it––whatever
“it” is! So many of us engage in this
primitive practice of superstition.
My father used to say, “Don’t get your hopes up so that way
you won’t be disappointed.” Well, he was
right. I followed his advice for years
and never got disappointed. I trained myself
to focus on the negative and to downplay my talents, wishes, and hopes. I had learned that hoping can only lead to
disappointment.
I’ve met many people who are reluctant to prepare for the
best, when that could somehow increase the chances of “the best” not
happening. If you think about it, isn’t
it amazing just how much power we think we have over the universe? Instead of, “build it and they will come”
their mantra is more like, “don’t dream it and it will come about.”
Had Massey written an acceptance speech, he still would have
won since the mere act of writing would not have had the power to make all those
winning votes magically disappear!
He engaged in magical thinking and we all do it in some form
or another:
Let’s not talk about bad jury duty experiences because then
we’ll receive a summons the next day (hmm. . .I hope I didn’t just jinx
myself!). Let’s not talk about it
raining on my special occasion because then it will rain. Let’s not prepare since that would entail too
much power on our part; but let’s acknowledge we do have power to shape things
by simply speaking of them!
What’s wrong with being disappointed? Okay, that’s such an obnoxious question
because we all know being disappointed sucks.
However, had Massey written his speech and lost, he would have been
disappointed AND he would have had that thank you written so he could have sent
it to those he loved. After all, he wasn’t
thanking them for winning, he was thanking them for loving him and he didn’t
need to wait to stand on stage with a trophy to do that!
What kind of magical thinking are you doing? Is it stopping you from doing something you
would enjoy? Do your superstitions free
you up or trip you up?
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