Sunday, December 28, 2014

TRUST – The Heart Of All New Year's Resolutions



I live in a condo and am on the HOA Board (and, yes, some of my neighbors read this blog!).  We recently fired our management company.  Why?  Because our collective frustration had reached the point where we no longer trusted Tony, the manager.  Delayed responses to emails and phone calls, a defensive tone when answering honest questions and a pervasive lack of transparency caused us to lose faith.

Soon after firing Tony, we met with the rep of another company and immediately we felt relief.  Joe arrived to the meeting on time and offered a comprehensive overview of what he and his company could do for us as a Board and for our neighbors – for our collective investment.

First impressions don’t always align with later reality but Joe was able to reassure us BECAUSE in a clear, respectful way he explained who he was, what he was about and what he stood for.  In hindsight, I realize Tony never did that.  He managed our condo for three years and I still don’t know what he wants to be known as and for.

Trust is established when people know who you are – and why you want to be that person.  That’s why we trust Joe and why we lost trust in Tony.

Beau is a new client who’s asked me to help him become a more engaging speaker.  For his first assignment, I asked him to name the five words he wants people to associate with him.  These are his words: intriguing, interesting, powerful, knowledgeable and humble.

Although I’ve only started to work with Beau, I can see why he’s chosen these words.  He values these characteristics and is able to explain why he puts a premium on them.  I think Beau is a man of TRUST.  And I think ‘trust’ is a quality that’s not found on every street corner because most people don’t know what they want to be known as.

These past weeks we’ve been celebrating a season of hope and faith, of giving and believing.  Oddly, we don’t associate the word ‘trust’ with this season – or any season really.  And, yet, amidst all the chaos that’s reported on the news, trust is what we most clamor for.

So here’s the thing – trust starts with me and with you.  What do you want to be known for?  What are the five words you want the rest of us to put our trust in?  If you understand what you want to be, if you resolve to be trustworthy, then I’m convinced that those New Year’s resolutions you’re sorting through will come into focus.  You’ll know who you want to become more of.

Happy, Daring, Joyful, Contented, Hopeful New Year!

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